18 Year Project Over - What's Next?

jcerio

jcerio

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The cover band that I founded with my guitarist brother that has been going strong for the last 18 years is breaking up. It's been a pretty wild ride. We have had a lot of fun and have been blessed with a good following and a steady supply of gigs. Weird. It's like losing a family member. I'm going through the stages of grief over this. We're playing what we have booked but not booking anything new. As it is that will take us most weekends into July.

Our lead singer has developed a very demanding career as an educator and is moving towards administration and eventually a PhD so her time is limited. My brother is wanting to try something different and really has issues with our drummer. I'm ok with it too. I really wouldn't mind a change too.

My biggest conundrum is what to do next. First, I will likely take some time off and look for more sub opportunities. First off, no ore "Dad Rock"! I really would like to find a project playing adult alternative, or even a modern country band. These will likely do well in my corner of the world. I've never really had the muse for writing my own stuff.

I'm not really looking for advice here, I guess I was just expressing myself to other bassists. Thanks for listening.

What a long strange trip it's been.
 
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18 years is a pretty big chunk of life so I think it is totally natural to express stuff like “losing a family member”. Like someone just mentioned, try to really enjoy the remaining gigs (I realize that’s not easy after a long run like this as it must be beyond routine). But when it does finally end it will feel different. So I would say try and really be present and conscious more than you even normally would.

This made me think of a time about 10 years ago that I had just finished around 8 years with a cover band and did countless gigs and I was ready for a change. I remember I was away for a weekend with my wife in a small town in upstate NY and it was Saturday night and she needed something so we went into a Walmart and I remember saying to her “ so this is what regular people do on Saturday nights?” It felt like I was on another planet.

I did need a break from that particular scene but when I did go back to gigging regularly again I realized how this is something that will always be a significant part of who I am. Hope I didn’t make this too much about me, your post was just something that really resonated with me.

Enjoy while you can...
 
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