So from age 13-35, back in the Pleistocene, I was in bands that were anarchic democracies (often with one loud member), but they were almost always composed of friends (and friends of friends) with some history and understanding of each other's motives, talents, etc. and generally worked out fine at the amateur, bar band level.
Just joined my current band back in May after a long hiatus, and they had a show booked in June so (it was my understanding that) we made the guy who owns the shed where we practice, the PA, and the band name temporary dictator as we scrambled to get two sets together. During that time he repeatedly told me that he wasn't interested in being music director, and that we'd be picking ongs via more democratic means once we had time after our first show.
So I suggested that we have a one-hour band meeting at the next rehearsal after we'd played the gig to discuss our direction and organizational structure going forward. And people lost their minds. Didn't want to discuss it. At all. Made clear that I wasn't invested in any particular outcome, but did need to know who, if anyone, was running the show. Gun to my head, I like the pirate org chart, with the captain at the top balanced by a quartermaster representing the interests of the rest of the crew, but I can make anything work. But I'd like to know what it is. Pretty please? Guess we're muddling on until a crisis arises that requires leadership, at which point we'll sink or swim.