Hi frostyman!
First you need to understand, and I mean really
understand, the Major Scale.
There are 12 different major scales (one for each note of the chromatic scale or "musical alphabet") and they all have exactly the same construction of whole steps (W) and half steps (H): W-W-H-W-W-W-H. The formula for the major scale is 1-2-3-4-5-6-7 and all other scales are defined in relation to the major scale.
If you don't know your 12 major scales (not just from the root to the octave, but over the entire range of the bass) or what I just said about whole step and half step patterns doesn't make any sense, then STOP and learn (I mean really
learn) the major scale before you even worry about modes.
Next up you should learn the 12 minor scales. The pattern of whole and half steps is: W-H-W-W-H-W-W and the formula is 1-2-b3-4-5-b6-b7. The b symbol means "flat" and indicates that the note in question is 1 half step lower compared to the major scale. In other words, the minor scale's 3rd, 6th, and 7th degrees are 1 half step lowered compared to the corresponding major scale. Example: C Major = C-D-E-F-G-A-B-C, C Minor = C-D-Eb-F-G-Ab-Bb-C.
If that doesn't make any sense, then STOP and learn your 12 major scales and 12 minor scales before you even worry about modes. These 24 scales (12 major scales, 12 minor scales) are the foundation of Western music; essential; must-learn.
Assuming you are ready to take the plunge into modes, you can learn them all in a day, and then move on to more important things. Here is everything you need to know about modes: There are two ways of thinking about modes:
parallel thinking and
relative thinking.
Parallel thinking means you are comparing a mode to the major scale starting on the same note. For example, compare D Dorian (D-E-F-G-A-B-C) and D Major (D-E-F#-G-A-B-C#). Parallel thinking makes it easy to see that only two notes are different, F vs. F# and C vs. C#. F is a half step lower than F#, and C is a half step lower than C#, so that is why we say the formula for Dorian is 1-2-b3-4-5-6-b7.
Relative thinking means you are comparing a mode to the major scale spelled with the same notes. For example, compare D Dorian (D-E-F-G-A-B-C) and C Major (C-D-E-F-G-A-B). They have the same notes, but start on a different note, meaning they are
relative to each other. This is why people say "D Dorian is a mode of C Major."
I hope that made some sense? That's really all there is to understanding modes. The most important thing is this:
As with all music theory concepts, modes are meaningless abstract nonsense until you apply them to actual music! So, turn off the computer, put on a playlist of your favorite music, and for each of your favorite songs, ask yourself: is this song in a major key, is it in a minor key, or is it modal? The value of learning modes is directly proportional to how prevalent they are in your favorite genres of music.
A final thought: Very important to realize that, just because a melody or bass line starts on a note other than the root of the major scale, does
not mean the piece is necessarily modal. For example, if you are singing "Mary Had a Little Lamb" in the key of C, it starts on the note E. Does this mean "Mary Had a Little Lamb" is in E Phrygian? No! Of course not! Or if you are singing "The Star Spangled Banner" in the key of C, it starts on the note G. Does this mean "The Star Spangled Banner" is in G Mixolydian? No! Of course not! The concept of "modes" is completely unnecessary to understanding the vast majority of popular songs.