Yeah, gonna talk to the others. I've said no to him in other bands, that's why he's talking with the others. I won't even pick up when he calls. Gonna set this whole thing straight. Not gonna settle for this when we can be something decent
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What do I do about this singer, do I just break the band up?
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Yeah, gonna talk to the others. I've said no to him in other bands, that's why he's talking with the others. I won't even pick up when he calls. Gonna set this whole thing straight. Not gonna settle for this when we can be something decent
Nah, it's not really his fault. He's just overly nice - he's new to the city and doesn't wanna step on toes. That crap can be unlearned, he's a terrific player
Sorry, I was joking about the video post above. Not a comment about your situation.
So evidently the guys in your trio don't care what you think. No working band I know would allow this to happen. Time to meet with your mates (without this singer, of course) and hash this out. Your input might change the situation, IF they care to listen. If they don't, and you are sure you don't want to be in the band with that singer, then you do what you need to do.
As others have said, here and all over Band Management ... COMMUNICATE.
As others have said, here and all over Band Management ... COMMUNICATE.
This gets my vote......your just going to have to tell him his services are not needed
Somebody in this project has to find it in themselves to stand up to the bully.
Maybe it'll be you.
Good luck man. Hope it all works out.
Maybe it'll be you.
Good luck man. Hope it all works out.
I made it 35 seconds into the video before burning it from my reality.
That was a generous 25 seconds too much.
Can only agree:
Do whatever needed in life to not cop Europe so disrespectfully.
I think I might have played with your singer before, but in my case he was a 6’7” drummer...
1. Get clear with guitar and drums - do you share a band vision that doesn’t include this guy? If not in alignment, find new band mates elsewhere.
2. If you all want the guy gone, tell him: “It’s not working w you”; “We just want to be a power trio for now (then look for the right singer and change you mind)” Anything that gets him gone. He hasn’t exhibited any courtesy so far, so maybe he’ll tell you what losers you are without him - that should make your job easier - nobody’s obligated to hang w a divisive jerk.
Otherwise +1 to what most others have said.
1. Get clear with guitar and drums - do you share a band vision that doesn’t include this guy? If not in alignment, find new band mates elsewhere.
2. If you all want the guy gone, tell him: “It’s not working w you”; “We just want to be a power trio for now (then look for the right singer and change you mind)” Anything that gets him gone. He hasn’t exhibited any courtesy so far, so maybe he’ll tell you what losers you are without him - that should make your job easier - nobody’s obligated to hang w a divisive jerk.
Otherwise +1 to what most others have said.
You need to clarify things with this "singer" and the rest of the band immediately.
I assume from your description that there's no band leader yet. Guess what? You're elected. And your first job is to communicate clearly to everyone that this guy is not part of the group.
Since he's been added to the group chat, I'd do it via the chat. It might save some drama at the rehearsal. You don't have to be rude, but you do have to be firm. Say something like "we (the band) have not yet had a chance to discuss what we are looking for in a singer, or whether we need a singer at all. I think inviting anyone new to attend any band meetings or rehearsals would be premature at this point. Thanks for your interest [singer], but we're going to have to ask you to be patient and understand that we're not open to new members at this time. If we decide to audition singers at some point down the road, we'll let you know."
I'd let the other members know ahead of time that you're going to send this message, so they understand where you're at and why.
Good luck.
I assume from your description that there's no band leader yet. Guess what? You're elected. And your first job is to communicate clearly to everyone that this guy is not part of the group.
Since he's been added to the group chat, I'd do it via the chat. It might save some drama at the rehearsal. You don't have to be rude, but you do have to be firm. Say something like "we (the band) have not yet had a chance to discuss what we are looking for in a singer, or whether we need a singer at all. I think inviting anyone new to attend any band meetings or rehearsals would be premature at this point. Thanks for your interest [singer], but we're going to have to ask you to be patient and understand that we're not open to new members at this time. If we decide to audition singers at some point down the road, we'll let you know."
I'd let the other members know ahead of time that you're going to send this message, so they understand where you're at and why.
Good luck.
Well, no choice now. This kid trawled through the chat, found a message from THREE MONTHS AGO, where I described an incident where he dropped the lyrics and almost fought with the drummer. Now he's calling and texting nonstop
Well, I’d say it’s pretty much resolved itself than at this point. If the other two are decent dudes, they won’t want crazy stalker guy in the group.
I'll keep it short. Walk away.....um, RUN actually.
This is heading to disaster.
This is heading to disaster.
Record early and often, and review. Secondly, find and prepare a new singer using the recordings to get him( or her) up to speed. Having him (or her) ready to drop in and gig will make this process of bouncing this guy a lot easier.