Can there be a better way to say "the band is not a priority"? I know married guys have keep their wives happy but jeez!
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Guitar Player can't rehearse tonight because he has to help his wife get ready for Halloween in two days.
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Wife stuff.... dude, tread carefully.
Its a mine field.
Its a mine field.
The band is not 100% priority unless you make 100% of your income from the band.
People have lives.
Rehearsal? Unless this is constant, I'd calm down.
People have lives.
Rehearsal? Unless this is constant, I'd calm down.
Halloween only comes once a year baw. Maybe cut them some slack this week.
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Different people have different priorities. If they don't mesh well, friction, heat and entropy result.
If this kind of thing from your guitar player is an infrequent, once in a long while kind of thing I would zip up and let it pass. If it happens too often to be comfortable for you, then your priorities and his aren't meshing and it's highly unlikely that they can be made to mesh. Perhaps time to look for another band situation (or another guitar player)?
If this kind of thing from your guitar player is an infrequent, once in a long while kind of thing I would zip up and let it pass. If it happens too often to be comfortable for you, then your priorities and his aren't meshing and it's highly unlikely that they can be made to mesh. Perhaps time to look for another band situation (or another guitar player)?
my son's GF was finishing a group project in her fourth year of her university major and the person who had something that had to be done, said she couldn't do it because it was her cat's birthday 
and they're in the medical field...
and they're in the medical field...
Oh boy. You just don't learn, do you?
There's a very very tiny percentage of musicians for whom their band is the absolute top priority. The rest of us live in the real world.
Let it go.
There's a very very tiny percentage of musicians for whom their band is the absolute top priority. The rest of us live in the real world.
Let it go.
Maybe he’s got a crazy graveyard scene or something?
Trust the science!my son's GF was finishing a group project in her fourth year of her university major and the person who had something that had to be done, said she couldn't do it because it was her cat's birthday
and they're in the medical field...
Halloween is a big deal for some people. If my wife says she needs my help with something that's important to her, that's my priority. I think it only becomes an issue if there's weekly drama of some sort that's interfering with the band commitment. In which case, the band needs to make decisions about its own priorities and proceed accordingly.
Happy wife, happy life. Happy band, cool fun gigs on some weekends. You decide.
Unless you were prepping for a Halloween gig, just shine it.
Does she make any other "extraordinary" demands on his time? Sounds like family stuff to me. Best to pick your battles wisely when it comes to this area.
Does she make any other "extraordinary" demands on his time? Sounds like family stuff to me. Best to pick your battles wisely when it comes to this area.
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Could you possibly complain just a bit more about your “band?”
Didn't we have this thread last year? It rises from the crypt...
Life is about associating with like minded people. Find some like minded band members
Band members always have different levels of commitment and different levels of spousal obligations. Just something you have to work around.
That is said a lot, and I would agree in this case, but to me it has to work both ways, I use "happy spouse, happy house," which means both must accommodate the other when requested.