Guitar Player can't rehearse tonight because he has to help his wife get ready for Halloween in two days.

[crguti]

butthurt bcs people didn’t support him and stand for the other guy. Bye.

 

[Bass Motifs]

As Kenny says: know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em. Pick your battles. Halloween is a big deal for my wife (ie, mum) and sounds the same for your bandmate. Accept it. In the corporate world they call it "social license".

To return to the thread hijack, my wife ordered a large skelton to have crawling up the side of the house. What arrived was a tiny skeleton that was better on the mantelpiece. All we could both think of was Stonehenge...

 

[pepj]

The OP did say this was a frequent problem with one person. So, on that basis I can understand people getting fed up with it.
I'd have moved to replace the guy holding the band up or left that band.
The OP also found another project which looked promising and once that firmed up, maybe would have left this unit ..which is what the concensus advice was.
Maybe the OP was looking for some support, banter or empathy or just contributing by adding threads. If people are fed up with a thread or poster they can ignore.

 

[mdogs]

Oh man I made the list.

This is exactly what I was thinking, then someone else pointed out the length of the list. I am back to being a small germ in a very large pool.

 

[moon-bass]

Maybe the OP was looking for some support, banter or empathy or just contributing by adding threads. If people are fed up with a thread or poster they can ignore.

OP wasn't chased off.

OP was argumentative and dismissive. Genuine questions were met with scorn, they were looking to be told that they were right and everyone else was wrong, and didn't like the feedback. Also, OP was welcome to ignore anyone as well.

 

[Michedelic]

Excuuuuuuse me!

Snit happens.

 

[pepj]

OP wasn't chased off.

OP was argumentative and dismissive. Genuine questions were met with scorn, they were looking to be told that they were right and everyone else was wrong, and didn't like the feedback. Also, OP was welcome to ignore anyone as well.

I think the OP was constantly ridiculed and derided for his threads about his bands.

Imo, some people went too far.
I recall him unable to follow the advice offered for his own reasons but if people are happy with the posts they made then thats on them.

 

[moon-bass]

I think the OP was constantly ridiculed and derided for his threads about his bands.

Imo, some people went too far.
I recall him unable to follow the advice offered for his own reasons but if people are happy with the posts they made then thats on them.

That's a pretty revisionist view as to what happened.

OP has been making posts for over a year complaining about the same things and asking for advice. Note, he wasn't saying that he was "venting" - I've seen plenty of those threads and almost always fellow TB members respond with empathy. OP wasn't venting, OP was specifically asking for advice.

It's not that OP was unable to follow advice, OP was unwilling to even listen to anything that didn't fit what OP didn't want to hear. On top of that, OP derided and scorned others when the dared to ask questions and (ore importantly) when they gave OP advice that again, OP didn't want to hear. OP wasn't derided for the threads, OP was derided because of the way that he reacted to folks genuinely trying to help, and then for the refusal to even listen to sound advice.

OP was right, everyone else was wrong. Those threads don't tend to go well. Welcome to the internet.

There's really two root problems here, both are very common on boards (hell, you should look at some of the FB groups, this is mild).

1) OP asks for advice but in reality is only looking for confirmation. When said confirmation is not received, OP reacts poorly. It's hard to have sympathy for these OPs.

2) Smart ass comments.That's what the ignore list is for. It's the nature of the beast in public and semi-public forums like these. I don't care for it myself, but again, that's what the ignore list. In addition, some people react to situations with humor. I don't see that as a bad thing. If OP is going to post on forums, they either need to get a thicker skin or ignore.

Or perhaps react nicely to people trying to help. Just a thought.

There are an absolute ton of people that have given a lot back to the bass playing community on this board. Some of us take that seriously.

 

[salmon256]

I think the OP was constantly ridiculed and derided for his threads about his bands.

Imo, some people went too far.
I recall him unable to follow the advice offered for his own reasons but if people are happy with the posts they made then thats on them.

The thing is, this user has written no joke I think a post every month about his band.
He made a post about being annoyed at his bandmate texting.
It became a gag among some members to use his past post.

The user made some great ones though like he talked about struggling performing at a fair but wanting to enjoy the festival, now that was extremly relatable enjoying local fairs but having to work.

It's just that, like all of the internet we are just giving opinion you can claim "everyone does this" but in the end unless you have stats/citations it all just opinions.
But I have to say seeing a repeat post about your bandmates and saying they aren't taking this seriously and getting angry when people do not agree with your "vent" I hate to say maybe everyone's opinions of changing your band isn't so much bad advice from strangers...

We all wanna validate I am guilty of it, but he put up a question or a complaint and was asking for similar situations some came and said it but all due respect it was a repeating pattern and maybe people just saying the whole "Find a band with similar values." and unsure if the OP even bother to take this advice.

 

[pepj]

I said he was 'unable' to quit the band, when imo, he should have been out of there as soon as possible. I think he showed great restraint and tolerance for what I considered untolerable situations.
Yep, the threads were on the same theme but I thought he was never rude..and took more harsh words than he gave out in those threads
All in all, I do not see the loss of a frequent poster and thread creator is a plus at a time when new threads also do indeed follow the same past material that a simple search might find and at a guess, new threads and post counts are down.